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Recognizing Borderline Personality Disorder in Children," from the Keeping Kids Healthy series that Montefiore Center. It is a must-see for parents with borderline teens because it is informative
and because it validates a parents' perspective. STUDY SHOWS "SCHEMA THERAPY" HELPS THOSE WITH BPD Schema Therapy
is showing a deeper personality change that enables patients to feel better. Schema Therapy incorporates a variety of approaches,
including Cognitive Behavior Therapy and emotion-focused techniques. Jeffrey Young, Ph.D., of the Cognitive Therapy Center
of New York, says that the greater effectiveness of Schema Therapy arises in part from its use of "limited re-parenting."
Books
Forward, Susan. Emotional Blackmail: When
the People in Your
Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You.
NY: Harper-Collins Publishers, 1997.
Gunderson, John G. Borderline Personality Disorder 1984
Gunderson, John G. and
Perry D., Ph.D. Hoffman. Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality
Disorder: A Guide for
Professionals and Families
Gunderson, John G. Borderline Personality Disorder: A Clinical Guide
Kreger, Randi, with James Paul Shirely.
The Stop Walking on
Eggshells Workbook Review.
Kreger, Randi, and Kim A. Willams-Justensen. Love and Loathing:
Protecting Your Mental Health and Legal Rights When Your Partner Has Borderline Personality Disorder. Kreger, Randi is currently working on a new book. It's
an evolution of her thinking since she wrote SWOE in 1998. It contains a discussion of 3 clusters of persons with BPD. First, the classic mental health picture as seen
in I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me. Second, is the high functioning
person whose BPD illness is hidden to all but their family. It is
very likely that a majority of people with BPD are in this cluster.
Third is a mixture of one and two. These are not closed clusters because there is some overlap.
Kreger, Randi. The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells Kreisman,
Jerold. I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality
This classic
focuses on the low functioning borderline personality disorder.
It also does a good job of picking apart the emotional and psychological
development from infancy on up, which has helps one understand where a lot of this stuff comes from. The book also introduces the reader to the SET theory (sympathy - empathy - truth) as
a way to cope.
The
discussion of BP's and organized religion helps one to understand
how the rigid splitting common to all of them causes them to
often gravitate toward legalistic churches, albeit only to take
up legalism as another club in the arsenal of BP weapons. Yes,
people with BPD can be and often are saved. However, they often
use the Bible as a weapon of judgment, condemnation and criticism,
not of grace, reconciliation, and love.
Lawson, Christine Ann, Ph.D. and Jason Aronson. Understanding
the
Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the
Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship
Dealing with this mental illness within a family calls for wise and firm boundaries. This book offers practical insights
and instruction where Stop Walking on Eggshells only touches
on lightly. The two books together make an awesome pair. This
book is quoted at length in the workbook for SWOE.
It is not only descriptive of the four types of these mothers but also prescriptive in how to relate
with each type within healthy boundaries.
Lineham, Marsha M. Cognative-Behavioral
Treatment of
Borderline Personality Disorder. New York: Guilford Press, 1993
Lineham, Marsha M. Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder (Paperback)
Mason, Paul T., Randi Kreger,
and Larry J. Siever. Stop Walking on Eggshells; Coping
When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder New Harbinger Pubns (July 1998) While
this book is written specifically for dealing with one mental
illness, I find its principles solid and transferable to help
anyone to stop walking on eggshells around them and reclaim their own life.
Melville, Lynn. Breaking
Free From Boomerang Love: Getting
Unhooked From Borderline Personality Disorder
Relationships
Miller, Alice. The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the
True Self.
This book could also have been named The Trauma of the Gifted Child. This sort of home environment often produces people with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Moskovitz, Richard. Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at the Borderline
Personality Disorder. Dallas, Texas: Taylor
Publishing Company, 2001.
Like I Hate You Don’t Leave Me, it emphasizes
low- functioning borderlines.
Oates, Wayne E. Behind the Masks: Personality Disorders in Religious Behavior.
Louisville: Westminster, 1987. Review.
Pate,
C. Marvin, and Sheryl L. Pate. Behind the Masks: Personality Disorders in the Church. Nashville: Broadman & Holman, 2000. Review.
Porr, Valerie.
Marsha M Linehan (forward), When Someone You Love Has
Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Repair the Relationship
Borderline
Personality Disorder (BPD) is among the most difficult to treat and
debilitating of psychological problems. Even though BPD is far
rarer than major anxiety and mood disorders, it accounts for
more than 10 percent of all psychiatric outpatient visits and
more than 25 percent of all psychiatric cases that require hospitalization.
And, individuals with BPD have a greater than 70 percent chance
of attempting or committing suicide.
With statistics like these, it's easy to imagine how difficult it is to be a family member, friend, or partner of someone with BPD. Maintaining a safe and positive relationship despite BPD requires specialized information and skills, the information that readers will find in this much-needed book. "Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder" offers readers new ways of communicating, developing trust
and repairing damaged relationships with a person with BPD. These methods are
adapted from Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT),a revolutionary new psychotherapy that research suggests is the most effective means of treating this disorder. The techniques presented in the book all start from a position of compassion, with the
acceptance and validation of individuals
with BPD. These attitudes work to foster
an atmosphere for the BPD sufferer that will motivate him or her to seek treatment, to work at the treatment they've already undertaken, and to truly believe that they can get better.
It tells the
story of how a young boy learns to understand and cope with his mother’s BPD illness.
Roth, Kimberlee and Freda B. Friedman. Surviving a Borderline
Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust
Spradlin, Scott. Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your
Life: How
Dialectical Behavior Therapy Can Put You in Control (New
Harbinger Self-Help
Reviews claim this book make Lineham’s Cognative-Behavioral
techniques both understandable and useful to people who do not have a PhD. in Psychology. It is recommended for both consumers with BPD and those with bipolar.
Tinman, Ozzie. One Way Ticket to Kansas: Caring about Someone with
Borderline Personality Disorder and Finding a Healthy You
Walker, Anthony. The Siren's Dance : My Marriage to a Borderline:
A Case Study Rodale Books (September 20, 2003)
Randi Kreger: “For
six years, I have maintained several support groups on the web for people who
have a borderline partner. Mr. Walker's book tells a very familiar story--ignoring
red flags in particular. Since most non-BP partners need immense validation, this book will validate your experiences so you will not feel so uncertain
and alone if you have a BP partner.”
Weiser, Conrad.
Healers: Harmed & Harmful. Minneapolis: Fortress Press,
1994.
A
psychologist and Administrator Systems Therapy and Consultation
Services in Allentown, PA, Dr. Conrad has written a very helpful
book from his twenty years of experience with clergy and churches.
What he has to say about clergy who are narcissistic, compulsive, depressed, dependent, or borderline and helping them is very valuable.
Winkler, Kathy. Randi Kreger.
Hope for Parents: Helping Your
Borderline Son or Daughter Without Sacrificing
Your
Family or Yourself.
Zakiya, Njemile. A Peek Inside The Goo: Depression
& The
Borderline Personality
"This book is for friends and family.” Narcissism
Brown, Nina W. Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grownup's Guide
to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publishers, Inc., 2001.
Donaldson-Pressman,
Stephanie, Robert M. Pressman. The
Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment.
San Francisco: Josey-Bass Publishers, 1997.
Miller, Alice. The Drama of the Gifted Child:
The Search for the
True Self. This
book could also have been named The Trauma of the Gifted Child.
This sort of home environment often produces people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Bipolar
Duke, Patty and Gloria Hochman.
A Brilliant Madness: Living with
Manic Depressive Illness Bantam,
1997, 368 pages.
This
is the actor's in-depth exposition of her mental illness and the way
she has dealt with it. Interestingly, she seems to be one of the
exceptions to the rule that people with mental illness generally
deny, at least at first, that anything could be wrong. Ms. Duke's
reaction to being told of a diagnosis of manic depression was
that it "finally had a name!" and could be dealt with.
She was, however, in her late 30's (if I remember correctly...
could be wrong) when the diagnosis came and had been through many
tumultuous years prior. She is, however, one of the persons
with bipolar disorder who religiously takes her medication,
and can't imagine her life without lithium.
Duke, Patty and Kenneth Turan. Call Me Anna: The Autobiography
of Patty Duke Bantam, 1988, 320 pages.
Autobiography
of Oscar and Emmy award winning actor Patty Duke, this one details her whole life, including her diagnosis with bipolar disorder.
Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness
Vintage, 1997, 240 pages.
This is the autobiography to read of bipolar disorder.
Kay Jamison is also a co-author of the definitive medical text: Manic Depressive Illness. A victim of manic depressive
illness herself, An Unquiet Mind is her "outing"
from the closet of mental illness. Though not a psychiatrist
(medical doctor), she is a teaching professor of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins
University School of Medicine.
McReynolds, James D.Min.,
Psy.D. DANCING WITH BIPOLAR BEARS: LIVING IN
JOY DESPITE ILLNESS
Chronic
joy from someone who's been there, "Dancing With Bipolar
Bears"is the remarkable story of success despite a diagnosis
of bipolar disorder. James "Jimmy" McReynolds was
a rising star young minister when bipolar illness was diagnosed
in his senior year of college. In Dancing With Bipolar Bears
Dr. McReynolds shares his remarkable story and offers unsolicited advice from
someone who's been there and is still there. If you have an illness, this book is your tool for shaping the life you have continued to envision
but never thought possible
McReynolds,
James, D.Min., Psy.D. PASSIONATE JOY: BUILDING A WEALTH OF JOY IN A WORLD STARVED FOR LOVE
Passionate
Joy connects the psychological and spiritual understanding of our least discussed human emotion. This book reflects the dawn of a revolutionary approach to
living. Norman Vincent Peale anointed Jim McReynolds as minister
of joy to the world. The most important characteristic of
a minister of joy is humility. This book teaches people the
purpose of our lives is to create an atmosphere for joy and miracles to happen.
Life is difficult. Building a wealth of joy enables us to know happiness. Readers will enter the joy of the Lord as they reflect upon their own joy. Neugeboren,
Jay. Imagining Robert: My Brother, Madness and Survival Rutgers University Press, 2003.
Life of a mentally ill Robert from a brother's perspective,
this book details the trials of dealing with mental illness in the family from a personal point of view. The author was actually left to deal with his brother pretty much on
his own when the parents up and moved to Florida, leaving Robert
in the State mental health system in New York while his brother, Jay, became a professor of English at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst.
Robert has been variously diagnosed as schizophrenic, bipolar, and bipolar with schizo-affective, but the diagnosis doesn't really make much difference in this story; it's a moving, personal account of mental illness. Papolos, Demitri M.D. and Janice
Papolos. The Bipolar Child: The Definitive and Reassuring Guide to Childhood's Most Misunderstood Disorder. New
York: Broadway Books, 2002, 415 pages.
Pauley, Jane. Skywriting:
A Life Out of the Blue Random House,
2004, 288 pages.
Notable simply because Jane Pauley, former co-host of America's "Today"
show and former correspondent on "Dateline," would ordinarily be one of the last people one would suspect of having
bipolar disorder. Jane is generally not perceived to be the usual tenacious, hard-hitting reporter which one ordinarily identifies
with having that type of job, or holding those types of positions. Rather, she seems much more like "the girl next door."
It was, therefore, a headlining news story that she had been diagnosed and spent time hospitalized, for bipolar disorder.
Jane's type of bipolar, (medication induced Bipolar III), was diagnosed
after she was prescribed steroids for a bout of hives. Jane's discussion of bipolar disorder is, like Jane herself, rather
understated. There seems little of the drama and chaos that ordinarily accompanies and surrounds this condition in her life.
Well written and good "biography" reading, and good for getting
a more well-rounded picture of who may have the disorder, but lacking in imparting substantive understanding of the disorder
itself.
Spradlin, Scott. Don't Let Your Emotions Run Your Life: How Dialectical
Behavior Therapy Can Put You in Control (New Harbinger
Self-Help Workbook) (Paperback)
Reviews
claim this book make Lineham’s Cognative-Behavioral techniques both understandable and useful to people who do not have a PhD. In Psychology. It is recommended for both consumers
with BPD and those with bipolar.
Torrey, E. Fuller, M.D. and Michael Bl. Knable, D.O. Surviving
Manic Depression: A Manual on Bipolar Disorder for Patients, Families, and Providers. New York: Basic Books,
2002, 306 pages.
Fuller, E. Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families,
Consumers, and Providers (Fourth Edition) Torrey, New York:
Harper Collins, 2001
Kotulski, Tina. Saving Millie: A Daughter's Story of Surviving Her Mother's
Schizophrenia
Neugeboren, Jay. Imagining Robert: My Brother, Madness and Survival Rutgers University Press, 2003.
Life of a mentally ill Robert from a brother's perspective, this book details the trials of dealing with mental illness in the family from a personal point of view. The author was actually left to deal with his brother pretty much on his own
when the parents up and moved to Florida, leaving Robert in
the State mental health system in New York while his brother,
Jay, became a professor of English at the University of Massachusetts,
Amherst.
Robert
has been variously diagnosed as schizophrenic, bipolar, and bipolar
with schizo-affective, but the diagnosis
doesn't really make much difference in this story; it's
a moving, personal account of mental illness.
Waterhouse, Steven. Strength for His People: A Ministry for Families
of the Mentally Ill (Book) Westcliff
Bible Press,
1994. Speaking from the experience of having a brother with schizophrenia,
Pastor Steven Waterhouse shares the painful impact of mental
illness on a Christian family.
Rev. Waterhouse carefully brings to the forefront several concerns
seldom addressed in other materials—particularly the valid
and invalid theories of schizophrenia’s causes and the relationship
of psychiatry to religion. One difficult issue is
covered with a frank discussion on differentiating schizophrenia
from demon influence, this work is extremely thought provoking.
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